Subject: Re: On discipling/Kip on sexuality - Part 1 From: carol2180@aol.com (Carol2180) Date: 1996/07/09 Message-Id: <4ruva9$57s@newsbf02.news.aol.com> Newsgroups: alt.religion.christian.boston-church [More Headers]
This is Kip McKean's address "Be Perfectly United", 1987 Boston Church of Christ Women's Retreat:
"And fourthly, you are commanded by God to provide with him not only a best friend, but you are to be his lover.
And the Bible says in Chapter 7:2, "but since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duties to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone, but to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time so that you can devote yourself to prayer and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control."
Bottom line: you may say, "well, my husband doesn't have a great need in his sex life." Listen, if he didn't have a great need in his sex life, he wouldn't be married. See, because technically speaking you can do more single. You say, "well, my husband is not given to lust." That's garbage if he is married. You say, "well, he has never told me." Well, that may be the fact. You need to understand the Bible's commandment and example right here. If he is married, then if he doesn't have a sexual outlet, he will fall into lust. "Well, what do you mean, brother?" I'm talking about thinking about other women, looking at other women. Pornography. Masturbation. Adultery. You say, "not my husband!" Yes. Even David. Even David, a man after God's own heart. I think you probably married a David. But that should scare you a little bit, too. You need to provide the kind of love life for him that fulfills him.
I really believe that if there are problems in the marriage, it's the man's fault. But I believe that if there are sexual problems, if he's having struggles with lust and pornography and adultery, I think that sister better take a long, hard look. Because, you see, your husbands are the top priority on Satan's hit list. I mean, of all the men in the world, he wants to knock your husband out of the ministry the most. How do you knock a guy out of the ministry the best? Adultery. The best way to do it. It's so discrediting. And why not with another sister, to boot? You are kidding yourself. A lot of you have such messed up marriages that YOU ARE IN DANGER OF LOSING HIS SOUL, AND YOURS, YOUR CHILDREN'S, AND THE SOULS OF THE UNWON PEOPLE THAT HE COULD HAVE WON IF HE WERE TO STAY AN EVANGELIST IN THE LORD'S CHURCH.
(continued in part 2)
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